Salespeople and marketers routinely make mistakes in
business which they would never make in dating.
For instance, on a first date, most of us wouldn’t think of putting our arm around someone and
saying “Let’s go steady.” Because we
know that the other person doesn’t know enough about us yet. It’s too soon to ask for that level of
commitment. But how often does a
salesperson ask for a prospect’s business at their first meeting? How often do you get blind letters soliciting
an order?
If you are interested in only dating people with a college
degree, or people who like to dance, you’ll quickly figure out where people in
your target population congregate, and you’ll develop an approach to determine
if they meet your criteria. But how
often have you been approached by a salesman who’s cold-calling, or going
door-to-door? And how often have you
received an email advertisement for a totally irrelevant product (such as cat
food for a dog owner)?
Most of us wouldn’t try and win someone’s affection by
reciting a list of our accomplishments and capabilities, or, worse yet, by
listing all the other people we’ve dated.
But we’ve all been on the receiving end of sales pitches which focus
solely on a company’s accomplishments and capabilities and a list of their
customers, with no interest shown in you, the prospect. If you were dating, you’d consider someone
who did this to be insensitive and ego-centric.
Is a company any different?
Most of us recognize that an interactive approach aimed at
identifying commonalities of interest is more likely than a hard sell to lead
to a long-term relationship. It’s too
bad so many marketers and salespeople haven’t learned that lesson.
Conclusion: If you think of each prospect or customer interaction as a date, and react accordingly, you are likely to leverage your personal experience to make your sales and marketing efforts more successful.